The wrong angle can quickly become uncomfortable while performing oral, which is bad news for your stamina and her orgasm. To keep everyone happy, try kneeling or crouching on the floor between her legs while she lies back with her hips at the edge of the bed.

To warm her up and build anticipation, kiss and caress her inner thighs and let her feel your breath before touching her clitoris or inner lips. When you're both ready, gently open her labia with your fingers or tongue and begin licking her, using long firm storkes with a flat tongue. As she relaxes, you can also explore specific areas like the clitoris and vagina with the tip of your tongue.

Pay attention to your partner's responses and adjust your speed, depth, and pressure accordingly. You can also ask her if she likes what you're doing and if there's anything she wants you to add or increase...just don't stop for too long! Communicating during sex builds intimacy and makes it easy to introduce toys and specialty lubricants.

Many women love penetration during oral, and hitting the G-spot heightens her satisfaction. With your hand palm-up, insert one or two fingers and rub the G-spot (an area inside the vagina that usually has a spongy or rippled texture) in a "come hither" motion, or tease her with a vibrator specifically designed for the G-spot.

Jokes aside, going down can be hard on the knees. Make sure you're on a pillow or thick carpet, or just have your man lie down on the bed.

Apply your favorite flavored lubricant and use a masturbator while you stroke his shaft up and down and pleasure him with your mouth. To really blow his mind, keep your mouth close to your hand and vary your grip and speed.  

When you want to taste every inch of him, deep throating is the way to go. If you have a strong gag reflex, calm it with some Deep Throat Spray. Tilt your chin up to position your mouth and throat in a straight line to take him all in.

Linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive: the tip of his penis, his testicles, and his perineum, the secret hot spot between the testicles and the anus.

Use different parts of your body in your blow job session; lips, hands, tongue, face, mouth, nipples, and breasts are all fair game! This provides new sensations and amazing visuals for him and will enhance your pleasure too!

Don't rush penetration! Start by gently massaging the outside of the anus with a small amount of lube to relax the muscles. This area can also be teased with a small vibrating bullet.

Consider a silicone-based or hybrid lubricant for anal penetration by a partner. These lubes are thicker and longer-lasting than water-based formulas and will make penetration easier and more pleasurable. Silicone toys aren't compatible with silicone lubes, so if they're a part of your play use an extra-thick water-based formula.

A good position for beginners is to relax on all fours with your partner kneeling in place behind you; this lets you lean back onto the penis or strap-on, controlling the pressure, speed, and penetration depth. Apply lots of lube or a specialty anal lubricant. Anal sex can feel uncomfortable or strange at first, which will usually subside as your body adjusts, but if you experience severe pain, stop or slow down until you feel comfortable. It's always okay to tell your partner you need to pause, avoid, or conclude any sexual activity for any reason, and they must listen to you when you do.

Butt plugs provide a filling sensation that many people find arousing, and can prepare you for anal sex with a penis or larger toys. Butt plugs should always have wide bases or handles for for safe use, as it's possible for toys to be lost inside the body during butt play. Avoid the embarassing ER visit and choose wisely! An anal training kit - a set of multiple plugs in different sizes for working your way up - is another great option.

People with prostates can find anal stimulation highly pleasureable; this organ is actually considered another type of G-spot, and can be mastered through exploration in the same way. Here are some tips for beginning prostate play:

• -The protate swells with arousal, so start by lightly stimulating the penis, testicles, and other erogenous zones.
• -Elevate the legs and gently massage the anal entrance, following the steps at the beginning of this section.
• -Locate the prostate, a small chestnut-sized bump approximately two inches inside.
• -Gently massage the prostate with fingers or a toy designed for p-spot stimulation.

As well as being a source of pleasure, prostate massage has proven health benefits including a decreased risk of prostate and testicular cancers. Make it a part of your sexual health regimen with an ergonomically designed prostate massager.

Anal beads are available in a variety of materials and sizes, and anal enthusiasts enjoy the unique popping and stretching sensations of this toy being inserted and removed during sex and foreplay.

Oral Sex performed in the anal area, commonly called a rimjob, rimming, or anilingus, is another form of butt play. To soothe nervousness and ensure a good experience, follow the hygiene tips in the "Before You Play" section and consider a lickable product to turn your lover's body into a mouth watering treat. Like other forms of oral sex, every person is different and will find different acts pleasurable, so be creative and take note of how they respond!

A power dynamic in which one person relinquishes control to a dominant party during erotic play, with both parties taking pleasure in their role.

The person who takes the active or controlling role over that of the bottom or submissive partner when engaging in BDSM play.

The practice of using pain during erotic activities as a sexual stimulant. The sadist inflicts pain and asserts control over the masochist; both parties enjoy their role by definition.

Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) and Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) are slightly different sets of guiding principles recognized by most participants in the BDSM Community. Under both sets of principles, parties are expected to be informed, respect limits and consent, and take the necessary precautions at all times.

The person who takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role when engaging in BDSM play.

An encounter that involves BDSM activities; a play session.

Someone who participates in BDSM activities sometimes as a Dominant/Top and other times as a Submissive/Bottom.

All BDSM play requires some prep work, and to ensure all parties have a safe, fun, and consensual good time, you're going to need to do some background research before you begin. There are tons of great free resources online for you and your partner to enjoy. Safety and consent are key concepts in the BDSM world, so spend some extra time on those topics.

Communicate extensively with your partner, before, during, and after engaging in any kind of BDSM play. Discuss your fantasies, set your limits as far as what you're comfortable doing ahead of time, and agree to stay within those limits during your play session. Often in formally collered D/s relationships, a contract between the dominant and submissive partners is created and signed, detailing everyone's wishes, needs, and limits. It's also a good idea for the dominant to check in on the submissive party a few times throughout a session.

Before engaging in any form of BDSM play, agree on a safe word. Be clear with your partner ahead of time that when you say your safe word, all activity will cease immediately. BDSM should be a fun and erotic part of your sex life--and it's essential that both parties are completely comfortable every step of the way! Additionally, be sure to establish a non-verbal signal or modified agreement to account for scenes in which anyone is restricted from speaking and/or moving.

To explore light BDSM submission without feeling too tied down, have your lover hold your wrists over your head, or cuff them together with wrist restraints. Try using silicone cuffs that have no metal components to irritate skin, making them an excellent choice for beginners or long-lasting play.

When sight is obstructed, the body's other senses become heightened, including touch. Slip on a mask or blindfold to experience heightened sensations, so that every teasing brush of the skin will feel deliciously orgasmic.

Enjoy kinky anal play with a vibrating butt plug or open up that back door with a firm yet flexible butt plug with a hollow center, perfect for inserting lubes, fingers, toys, and more.

Start by stimulating the nipples with an ice cube or pinching to find the right type and level of sensation, and then put on a set of nipple clips for a firm, stimulating clamp down, or nipple suckers for an engorged pumping effect.

Wet and wild fun of all kinds is in an indispensable part of the fetish scene, from wet and messy to nuru to watersports. Protect your bed and other furniture in style with a set of waterproof sheets.