Loob 101


Water-based formulas are the most universally safe and effective, suitable for most toys, condoms, skin types, and activities. Because the products are water-soluble, they are easy to clean from the skin, fabrics, and other materials.

Water-based formulas can be made in different levels of viscosity (thickness) for different use, and because they are naturally flavorless they provide an excellent base for flavored products.

The only downside is that they can dry up quickly, so keep the container close at hand to reapply as needed.

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Silicone lubes and glides are the second most commonly used type, popular because they are more slippery and longer-lasting than water-based products and don't rinse away with water. That makes silicone a great choice for intimate encounters taking place in and around water like the shower or hot tub, or during liquid play.

Be careful using silicone-based formulas around toys, as lubes and glides containing silicone may degrade their materials if it touches them. Silicone lubes may also stain fabrics and have to be washed from the skin with soap or cleanser, so plan ahead to avoid any unwanted results.

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Hybrid lubes and glides are exactly what they sound like: formulas that contain both silicone and water-based ingredients. These products provide the benefits of both types, like the long-lasting moisture of silicone-based formulas and the easy clean-up of water-based products, and lessen the potential drawbacks of each. Hybrids also have a unique "cushion" feel that users find very pleasurable.  

Because hyprid lubes and glides contain silicone, the same precautions should be taken to protect toys and other possessions that may be affected by contact with silicone-based products.

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Specialty Lubricants


Lubes and glides designed for use during anal sex are usually thicker formulas that provide greater lubrication for a longer period of time. Some also contain benzocaine, a tropical anesthetic which helps ease some of the discomfort associated with anal play. Using anesthetic anal products is a personal choice; some users like how much easier they make anal play, while others prefer to wait for their body to naturally adjust.

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Some products, usually water-based, are lickable and infused with different flavors to add another fun dimension to intimate play. Many players use these versatile products as standard lubricants and oral sex enhancers, or for massage. Flavored lubes should not contain sugar as this is unhealthy for many sensitive areas of the body.  

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Sensation Play

Sensation play lubes are formulated to produce specific reactions and stimulating effects when they come into contact with the skin, or when a user touches or blows on the area where a sensation play product has been applied. These products can have cooling, warming, and tingling effects that greatly enhance users' experience.

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Dictionary of Pleasure Products


An umbrella term for several types of erotic activities among consenting adults. It is an acronym condensing several phrases: Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism. Also known as Kink.

Ben-Wa Balls

Small weighted balls inserted in the vagina to strengthen and tighten kegel muscles for more powerful orgasms.

Butt Plug

Insertable toys designed for anal stimulation. Butt plugs, also called anal plugs, provide a unique "filling" sensation that many find arousing, and can prepare users for anal sex. All plugs should have flared bases for safety.

Cock Ring

Cock Rings are worn around the shaft or at the base of the penis to restrit blood flow, creating long-lasting and more potent erections. Offere in many sizes and materials, with or without vibration. Also called c-rings.


Products made to resemble an erect penis in a variety of different shapes, sizes, colors, and materials.


Products that enhance different sexual activites and reduce friction by replacing or supplemementing the body's natural lubrication.  


Toys designed for penetration by a penis during masturbation or foreplay. Masturbators come in many different shapes and forms and feature unique internal stimulating textures. Many are modeled to look and feel like the real thing (vagina, mouth, or butt). Also called a stroker or pocket pussy.


Packers are designed to replicate the look and feel of a flaccid penis and worn in jockey shorts, jock straps, and packing shorts for comfortable all-day wear.

Penis Exteneder

A sleeve worn over the penis to enhance length and girth for intensified penetration and pleasure. Also called a penis or cock sleeve.

Penis Pump

A male enhancement tool that helps draw blood flow to the penis, creating a rock-hard, thicker and more potent erection.

Prostate Massager

Prostate massagers are designed to stimulate the male prostate gland, a practice that enhances sexual pleasure and overall health.Most commonly features a curved design with a bulbous tip. Also called a prostate stimulator.

Pussy Pump

These pumps draw blood flow to the clitoris and labia with suction for increased arousal and sensitivity.


A dildo or other insertable pleasure product that is attached to a harness.


A motorized sex toy anyone can use to stimulate multiple erogenous zones during masturbation, foreplay and sex.

Oral Sex Guide

For Her

Assume the Position

The wrong angle can quickly become uncomfortable while performing oral, which is bad news for your stamina and her orgasm. To keep everyone happy, try kneeling or crouching on the floor between her legs while she lies back with her hips at the edge of the bed.

Take It Slow

To warm her up and build anticipation, kiss and caress her inner thighs and let her feel your breath before touching her clitoris or inner lips. When you're both ready, gently open her labia with your fingers or tongue and begin licking her, using long firm storkes with a flat tongue. As she relaxes, you can also explore specific areas like the clitoris and vagina with the tip of your tongue.

Communication is Key

Pay attention to your partner's responses and adjust your speed, depth, and pressure accordingly. You can also ask her if she likes what you're doing and if there's anything she wants you to add or increase...just don't stop for too long! Communicating during sex builds intimacy and makes it easy to introduce toys and specialty lubricants.

Oh G!

Many women love penetration during oral, and hitting the G-spot heightens her satisfaction. With your hand palm-up, insert one or two fingers and rub the G-spot (an area inside the vagina that usually has a spongy or rippled texture) in a "come hither" motion, or tease her with a vibrator specifically designed for the G-spot.

For Him

Get Comfortable

Jokes aside, going down can be hard on the knees. Make sure you're on a pillow or thick carpet, or just have your man lie down on the bed.

Get Hands-On

Apply your favorite flavored lubricant and use a masturbator while you stroke his shaft up and down and pleasure him with your mouth. To really blow his mind, keep your mouth close to your hand and vary your grip and speed.  

Deep Throat

When you want to taste every inch of him, deep throating is the way to go. If you have a strong gag reflex, calm it with some Deep Throat Spray. Tilt your chin up to position your mouth and throat in a straight line to take him all in.

Be Anatomically Correct

Linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive: the tip of his penis, his testicles, and his perineum, the secret hot spot between the testicles and the anus.

Give It Your All

Use different parts of your body in your blow job session; lips, hands, tongue, face, mouth, nipples, and breasts are all fair game! This provides new sensations and amazing visuals for him and will enhance your pleasure too!

Intro to Anal

Before You Play

Proper Grooming

Anal play doesn't have to be messy, but it does require some prep work! For a deep clean before you get started, use a douche product. Have a shower, get freshened up, and lie out a towel on your bed. You may also want to keep some cleansing wipes within reach.

Take it Slow

Don't rush penetration! Start by gently massaging the outside of the anus with a small amount of lube to relax the muscles. This area can also be teased with a small vibrating bullet.

Remember to Lubricate

Consider a silicone-based or hybrid lubricant for anal penetration by a partner. These lubes are thicker and longer-lasting than water-based formulas and will make penetration easier and more pleasurable. Silicone toys aren't compatible with silicone lubes, so if they're a part of your play use an extra-thick water-based formula.

Maintain Control

A good position for beginners is to relax on all fours with your partner kneeling in place behind you; this lets you lean back onto the penis or strap-on, controlling the pressure, speed, and penetration depth. Apply lots of lube or a specialty anal lubricant. Anal sex can feel uncomfortable or strange at first, which will usually subside as your body adjusts, but if you experience severe pain, stop or slow down until you feel comfortable. It's always okay to tell your partner you need to pause, avoid, or conclude any sexual activity for any reason, and they must listen to you when you do.

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Plug In

Butt plugs provide a filling sensation that many people find arousing, and can prepare you for anal sex with a penis or larger toys. Butt plugs should always have wide bases or handles for for safe use, as it's possible for toys to be lost inside the body during butt play. Avoid the embarassing ER visit and choose wisely! An anal training kit - a set of multiple plugs in different sizes for working your way up - is another great option.

Please the Prostate

People with prostates can find anal stimulation highly pleasureable; this organ is actually considered another type of G-spot, and can be mastered through exploration in the same way. Here are some tips for beginning prostate play:

  • -The protate swells with arousal, so start by lightly stimulating the penis, testicles, and other erogenous zones.
  • -Elevate the legs and gently massage the anal entrance, following the steps at the beginning of this section.
  • -Locate the prostate, a small chestnut-sized bump approximately two inches inside.
  • -Gently massage the prostate with fingers or a toy designed for p-spot stimulation.


As well as being a source of pleasure, prostate massage has proven health benefits including a decreased risk of prostate and testicular cancers. Make it a part of your sexual health regimen with an ergonomically designed prostate massager.


String Them Along

Anal beads are available in a variety of materials and sizes, and anal enthusiasts enjoy the unique popping and stretching sensations of this toy being inserted and removed during sex and foreplay.

Finish the Job

Oral Sex performed in the anal area, commonly called a rimjob, rimming, or anilingus, is another form of butt play. To soothe nervousness and ensure a good experience, follow the hygiene tips in the "Before You Play" section and consider a lickable product to turn your lover's body into a mouth watering treat. Like other forms of oral sex, every person is different and will find different acts pleasurable, so be creative and take note of how they respond!

Edging 101

Edging is a form of foreplay used in many different settings, and desbribes the practice of bringing yourself or a partner close to climax - or to the "edge" - but stopping before full orgasm is reached. In BDSM dynamics, it can be a form of domination such as orgasm denial, while many people who experience premature orgasm or ejaculation edge as part of a sexual health regimen to build stamina. Activities similar to edging are also found in the Kama Sutra and in tantric practice.

If you're edging with a partner, agree on how the receiving partner wants to be stimulated, how they will indicate that they're close to coming, and which partner gets to choose when the receiver completes their orgasm. The receiving partner should also take slow deep breaths and focus on being in control of their body.

To make solo or partner edging as fun and pleasurable as possible, we recommend keeping your favorite lube, a bullet vibrator, flavored sex enhancers, and any other toy or product you might want to use close at hand.

Edging with a Penis

Focus on stimulating the shaft and base of the penis, avoiding too much contact with the sensitive head where most of the nerve endings are located. When close to orgasm, stop stimulating

Edging with a Vagina and Clitoris

Edging with a vagina and clitoris can involve one or all of a few different kinds of stimulation. Start by massaging the inner and outer labia and the outside edges of the vaginal opening with a water-based lube until you/your partner becomes aroused before inserting fingers or samll toys for further stimulation of the vagina and/or g-spot. Clitoral stimulation is frequently a part of edging and performed with the hands, with vibrators, and orally. If the receiving partner is very sensitive, do not touch the clitoris directly, instead stimulating the hood and area around it with fingers, tongue, or a clitoral vibrator.

Harness Play

There are many reasons to introduce a harness play into your sex life. For some couples, a strap-on is the means to enjoy sex in ways they may not be able to unassisted, and for others it can be a new experience for enhancing pleasure, building intimacy, and breaking out of a routine.

Choosing Your Harness

Choosing the right harness for you and your partner(s) depends on multiple unique factors and wearer preferences, such as comfort level, coverage, material, and long-term value.

Traditionally, harnesses have worked in one of two ways: a separate penetrative toy like a dildo is held in place with an assembly of O-rings and snaps, or the penetrative toy is simply attached to the harness with no option to change or remove it. These harness were often uncomfortable to wear and awkward to use as they weren't easily customized for their users to fully enjoy.  

Doc Johnson aimed to change this and address common strap-on issues through the Vac-U-Lock system, a user-friendly selection of harnesses and toys created for use with a patented plug base that introduced more stability and interchangeable parts to the world of harness play. Vac-U-LockTM Harnesses are available in a variety of materials and styles, most of which are adjustable and feature padded and reinforced front panels for maximum durability and comfort. Choose from a variety of materials like leather, neoprene, and velvet in assorted colors and in strap-on or panty-style designs.

Vaginal Strap-On Play

Using a strap-on to have vaginal sex with a partner is usually done when the wearer does not have a penis, or is unable or prefers not to use their own penis this way. For this reason, many harnesses have open-crotch designs to allow easy access to the wearer's body for other kinds of sex and stimulation during play.

Wearers who have penises can also experiment with hollow strap-ons or harnesses with built -in presenter holes, while wearers with vaginas can enjoy modifications like the Double Up Plug to experience penetration at the same time as the receiving partner.

Anal and Double Penetration Strap-On Play

For strap-on activities that include anal penetration, make sure you read the Anal 101 portion above and follow the advice given there for prepartation, hygiene, and safe backdoor play! As with all anal play, beginners should start with something small, smooth, and slim to get acclimated to the new sensations and responses the body experiences.


A popular term for the act of a woman using a strap-on attachment to have anal sex with a man, pegging is a recently trending topic and a great way to stimulate the prostate (an organ considered by many to be the "male g-spot").  

DP with Attachments

To simultaneously hit both of your partner's hot spots using only your strap-on, just equip your harness with a double penetrator, a single attachment that includes a thick, textured vaginal dildo and a soft, slim anal dildo.

DP with Partner

To have double penetration sex with your partner using a harness and your own penis, attach a toy of her choice to the harness with an open/accessible crotch design. Harnesses with a presenter hole offer a good option, as they function similar to a c-ring for stronger erections.  

Beginner BDSM

What is BDSM?

BDSM is an umbrella term used to encompass a broad set of alternative erotic activities that take place among consenting adults, collectively know as kink. It is an acronym composed of several phrases: Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism & Masochism.

The Lingo

Bondage and Discipline

In BDSM play, "Bondage" refers to the physical restraint of a person, using various materials to restrict movement, whereas "Discipline" suggests the use of rules or punishment to control or reward behavior.

Dominance and Submission

A power dynamic in which one person relinquishes control to a dominant party during erotic play, with both parties taking pleasure in their role.


The person who takes the active or controlling role over that of the bottom or submissive partner when engaging in BDSM play.

Sadism and Masochism

The practice of using pain during erotic activities as a sexual stimulant. The sadist inflicts pain and asserts control over the masochist; both parties enjoy their role by definition.


Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) and Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) are slightly different sets of guiding principles recognized by most participants in the BDSM Community. Under both sets of principles, parties are expected to be informed, respect limits and consent, and take the necessary precautions at all times.


The person who takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role when engaging in BDSM play.


An encounter that involves BDSM activities; a play session.


Someone who participates in BDSM activities sometimes as a Dominant/Top and other times as a Submissive/Bottom.

Before You Play

#1 Do Your Research

All BDSM play requires some prep work, and to ensure all parties have a safe, fun, and consensual good time, you're going to need to do some background research before you begin. There are tons of great free resources online for you and your partner to enjoy. Safety and consent are key concepts in the BDSM world, so spend some extra time on those topics.

#2 Communicate

Communicate extensively with your partner, before, during, and after engaging in any kind of BDSM play. Discuss your fantasies, set your limits as far as what you're comfortable doing ahead of time, and agree to stay within those limits during your play session. Often in formally collered D/s relationships, a contract between the dominant and submissive partners is created and signed, detailing everyone's wishes, needs, and limits. It's also a good idea for the dominant to check in on the submissive party a few times throughout a session.

#3 Prioritize Safety

Before engaging in any form of BDSM play, agree on a safe word. Be clear with your partner ahead of time that when you say your safe word, all activity will cease immediately. BDSM should be a fun and erotic part of your sex life--and it's essential that both parties are completely comfortable every step of the way! Additionally, be sure to establish a non-verbal signal or modified agreement to account for scenes in which anyone is restricted from speaking and/or moving.

Sexy BDSM Moves to Get Started

Show Some Restraint

To explore light BDSM submission without feeling too tied down, have your lover hold your wrists over your head, or cuff them together with wrist restraints. Try using silicone cuffs that have no metal components to irritate skin, making them an excellent choice for beginners or long-lasting play.

Out of Sight

When sight is obstructed, the body's other senses become heightened, including touch. Slip on a mask or blindfold to experience heightened sensations, so that every teasing brush of the skin will feel deliciously orgasmic.

Unlock the Back Door

Enjoy kinky anal play with a vibrating butt plug or open up that back door with a firm yet flexible butt plug with a hollow center, perfect for inserting lubes, fingers, toys, and more.

In A PInch

Start by stimulating the nipples with an ice cube or pinching to find the right type and level of sensation, and then put on a set of nipple clips for a firm, stimulating clamp down, or nipple suckers for an engorged pumping effect.

Get Wet

Wet and wild fun of all kinds is in an indispensable part of the fetish scene, from wet and messy to nuru to watersports. Protect your bed and other furniture in style with a set of waterproof sheets.